Living With A Bipolar Spouse: Patterns, Realities, Support

The best thing we can do to help the people we love, is to build a community around ourselves and them. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder II the next year and my own pattern of hypersexual behavior was easy to see in retrospect. We met while I was hypersexual and manic. I moved in with him after knowing him a week. I was young and single at the time and my behavior was simply called wild and strange.

The first week or so on the meds was uneventful, but then the side effects started. My mouth was dry all the time, and I craved liquids. After I took my “night pills,” I would babble incoherently before falling asleep.

They need experienced health care providers for that. Your best bet is to call adult services, if you suspect dangerous behaviors that can harm to herself or others. This means the person who “cheated” is very, very confused by what happened and usually very ashamed and often mortified. Hypersexuality from bipolar disorder can be deeply embarrassing for those of us with bipolar disorder and we will tell you this when the episode is over. Here are two suggestions to help you find clarity….

dedicated to people with bipolar.

And you have to decide if you have the internal fortitude to handle that. And I’m just so surprised by that because it turned out OK for you. Your advice of it won’t turn out OK is wrong. Even my dad is like, well, I knew your mom was the one. And if you know that somebody is the one, there’s no sense in waiting. My parents should not give this advice.

“Don’t take it as a personal attack,” he added. “If a person in any circumstance makes a threat of suicide, that is an emergent situation. You should take away any means that you’ve seen currently available for them to do that and take them to an emergency room,” she said.

I did find some questions about dating men with bipolar disorder or other mental illnesses in this sub. A lot of them had positive comments, but none of them were from women who actually dated bipolar men. The women who had dated bipolar men or knew someone who had dated a bipolar man were quite negative.

The most important thing is to stay in treatment, stay on your medication, and be honest. I totally understand not wanting to tell someone unless it’s serious. I didn’t tell my SO until we had been friends for a while.

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One reason is that symptoms may be confused with other conditions, such as ADHD, anxiety, substance use, and more. Every person with bipolar disorder has a unique experience of the condition. Being educated about symptoms and treatment options can provide insight into ways to better support a spouse with bipolar disorder. During the manic phase, a person can lose their sense of judgment.

Also, don’t be afraid to ask questions of your partner and be open to discussing how your diagnosis has an effect on them as well. Ultimately, you can help each other maintain healthy habits and a sense of balance and consistency that is healthy for any couple, regardless of any mental health diagnosis. It’s sometimes possible for a person to have bipolar disorder and be unaware of their condition, particularly during a manic episode.

“Sometimes, when people have been stable for a while, they’re sort of like, ‘Oh, I don’t think I need any of this anymore.’ Usually that’s a bad idea,” she said. In experiences with my mother, when she’s be terribly manic I have to get away or it will lead to abuse. During those days I would stay with another family member. Don’t be afraid to pull away until he’s more aware of his own actions.

In regards to the mood swings, it helps to realize that it’s not personal, it’s just brain chemistry gone wrong. However, it’s difficult sometimes not to take it personally. I dated a guy for a few months who was diagnosed with depression, but had bipolar disorder. Unless he was actually diagnosed with bipolar but just never told me.