Is It Okay To Date A Woman In Her 50s If I’m 36?

Not only is he super smart, he is amazing in bed, he happens to be my best friend and mentor. He’s also in great shape, much better shape than me actually. We both have a past and have agreed to respect each other’s pasts. He’s protective and treats me really well. I feel so lucky and wouldn’t ever wanna be apart from him. A man who’s been around the block a few extra times has a lot to give.

You might need to re-learn how to flirt with men, how to make a man feel good about himself, and how to present your most confident and alluring self in the dating world. Don’t Be Too Serious – A good sense of humor is sexy. People often use the “half-your-age-plus-7 rule” to determine the minimum socially acceptable age they can date — but this doesn’t always work.

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It has also always been clear to me that no woman could feel attracted to me other than on a platonic level. I have many women friends but there is never anything sexual about these friendships because women don’t feel that around me. Since women aren’t interested, I have never asked any woman out. Friends tell me that all I have to do is flirt a bit and ask women out and I’ll have lots of dates. No – all I would get would be an unbroken string of rejections. I cannot flirt because I am not sexually attractive to any woman, so there is no point in trying.

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It was time to find a new woman for a lasting relationship. I found someone and we dated for a year. She was younger and very good looking.

He cheated on me more than once and I stupidly kept him in my life until he finally wanted out. I did not want kids and he was ok with that until he had a midlife crisis. Then he wanted a divorce so he could go on to have his own kids.

In fact, while I don’t have full-on erectile dysfunction, I’ve grown to be thankful that my penis doesn’t make any of my decisions anymore. My marriage of 27 years ended after I just flat stopped having sex with her after an entire marriage of being manipulated by my phallus. Over a span of twenty-five years I was made to feel unwanted and disgusting despite lifting, running, swimming, yoga, and martial arts to try to make myself more appealing and sexy. Right on schedule, her libido went into overdrive in her late 40s. I’m not ashamed a bit to say that I took great pleasure in regaining control of my sexuality as my drive slowed and the children moved away, flipping the power dynamic in our marriage.

I lost an intimate partner when he was 49. He was more to me than just a boyfriend. It’s possible that some day we would have married.

“Even if you were dating someone your own age, you wouldn’t want to assume they had the same trajectory for their life as you did,” Carmichael says. And you definitely don’t want to do that in a relationship with a sizable age gap, since they probably have a more concrete picture of the next few years. That said, if he has kids from that relationship, that’s something else to consider. Will you be involved in their lives? This requires a serious conversation. Integrating into his family could prove to be more difficult than you thought, especially if he has older daughters, Carmichael says.

Dating a younger man because mostly older men want to date because I am still very young looking and in good shape. Also, he would have sex everyday and I have a very high sex drive. So doesnt demand anything from me while I am exploring having a great sex life after it waning years before hubby died. The stats on being alone as a woman my age I tend to believe.

We had a failure in communication that seemed to start breaking down as the kids were leaving for college. There have been wonderful happy times raising three gorgeous children, 2 in college 1 in mid teens, all seem to be happily adjusted life is good. However, about 5 years ago I discovered with her help a little problem in my family called alcoholism and cleaned up my act many years ago and got sober. Most women lose their libido as well as men approaching 50, sometimes weight issue or health in general.

I am sorry for how you’ve been treated. I too was cheated on, by more than one man. I can relate to the pain and betrayal, especially when you’re married. And yes, there often is a substantial loss of friends after a divorce. If you want to talk I am the editor for a spiritual site within a large women’s site that welcomes both women and men as members.

Having a relationship with an older man without the focus being on raising children gives you the ability to really bond and connect with no distractions. What this means is that it’s an evolutionary pattern that women are drawn to older men, in part because of their status and resources. Now, I’m not saying every older man is ready to settle down again. Plenty want to continue to play the field.

And, while companionship is great, you can join a local social club for companionship. It seems counter-intuitive to say that people characterized by one attribute — how old they are — don’t care as much about age when looking for a companion, but it’s true. Young people are incredibly age-prejudiced, to such an extent that age is one of the most important filter criteria used to find a match on online dating sites. It took about a year of emotional recovery from the divorce for me to venture into online dating.